After our kids started to get a little bit older, I realized that we weren't spending that much time together as a family. Instead of spending extra time at work so that we had more money, we decided to put other things aside and learn to do things as a family. We started doing things like going to parks, visiting exhibits together, and teaching our kids how to do things outside. It was really enjoyable, and within a few short months, we could tell that our efforts were making a difference. This blog is all about learning how to do fun things as a family.
If you took a pregnancy test and got a positive result, and you feel you aren't in a place in your life where you can take care of a child, you may have thought about putting the infant up for adoption after its birth. You will want to be completely sure in taking this route, making it necessary to do some research beforehand to help you with your decision. Following is a rundown of what you can expect if you do decide to place your baby for adoption after delivery.
Ensure You Take Care Of Health Aspects
Before you go through the steps in retaining an adoption service to help you with the process, it is important that you see an obstetrician or midwife to assess your pregnancy as it progresses. Let your caregiver know if you are contemplating giving the baby up for adoption so they will handle your appointments appropriately. They may offer less in the way of bonding procedures such as additional ultrasounds or monitoring of the heartbeat to help you detach from the baby a bit easier. If you do wish to be involved in these procedures, however, do not hesitate to ask your healthcare provider.
Enlist Help From An Adoption Service
Ask your healthcare provider for a list of adoption agencies in your area if you are not sure where to begin the process. After you call an agency, take the time to visit it in person so you get a feel for the people who will be working on your behalf to place your baby. If you feel at all uneasy about the process, leave and try another service. Most adoption agencies will give you paperwork to fill out where you can specify qualities you wish for your baby's parents to have. This is a helpful part of the process as you will have a say in the values you believe in so your baby will be placed with someone you feel comfortable with.
Some adoption agencies will allow you to be involved in the selection of the parents via interview processes. If you want to be involved in the child's life later on, you can specify this wish. Do not sign any paperwork without having an attorney look it over beforehand. This way, you will know the rights you will have during any part of your pregnancy as well as after the birth of the child.
Prepare For The Transition
Alert your doctor whether you would like to hold the baby after giving birth. Some people find closure in holding the baby for a moment and then handing it to its new parents. Others feel better in having the entire transition done without needing to speak to anyone at all. To help you make a decision on how to handle the birth, counseling can be helpful. Many adoption companies offer counseling as part of their services. You can change your mind about how your birth is handled at the last minute if you wish. Keeping this in mind is often helpful to those going through the adoption process.
For more information about adoption, visit http://www.achildsdream.org or a similar website.