After our kids started to get a little bit older, I realized that we weren't spending that much time together as a family. Instead of spending extra time at work so that we had more money, we decided to put other things aside and learn to do things as a family. We started doing things like going to parks, visiting exhibits together, and teaching our kids how to do things outside. It was really enjoyable, and within a few short months, we could tell that our efforts were making a difference. This blog is all about learning how to do fun things as a family.
Losing a loved one can be very painful. While every person deals with grief differently, some people's coping mechanisms can be disruptive and turn what should be a solemn affair into the raunchiest episode of Jerry Springer ever. If you want to keep the drama at your loved one's funeral to a minimum, here are two tips that may help.
If you know in advance that certain family members don't get along or that some people are likely to cause a scene during the proceeding, one thing you can do to minimize the risk of drama occurring is to assign seating. This can be done by requiring people to RSVP to the funeral and placing placards on the chairs (or pews) indicating where people are to sit. To make things go smoother and faster, you can hire an attendant to show people to their seats as they arrive.
Assigned seating can help minimize the risk that enemies will inadvertently be seated next to each other. It'll also give you an opportunity to put potentially disruptive people in an area where their behavior will have minimal impact on the proceedings. This option can be tricky to implement, depending on where the funeral is held. So work closely with your funeral director to ensure the plan is implemented without incident.
Have a Fallout Room
Another thing you can do to help minimize funeral drama—or at least manage it—is have a fallout room. This is a room where people can go (or be escorted) to cool down, cry loudly, scream, or continue arguing with someone they starting fighting with while in the main room. This lets you (or others) handle the volatile situation while minimizing the impact on other mourners.
Many funerals are held in churches, and these facilities typically have small rooms in other parts of the building that can serve as a fallout room. The farther away from funeral the room is situated, the better. When people are yelling or crying loudly, the sound may carry to the main room. The farther away the fallout room is, the less likely people in the main part of the church will hear what's going on.
As a comfort to those who find themselves in the fallout room, you may want to have the funeral live-streamed and show it on a television in the room. Therefore, if people don't feel comfortable returning to the funeral, they can still watch the proceedings from where they are.
For more information, contact Conboy-Westchester Funeral Home Inc or a similar company.